O.K., have you ever said out loud or in you’re head? “Man I wish I could increase my masculinity” or “He looks and acts more macho then me”, well I sure have. How many times have you second guessed yourself on what you have had on or your realness?

From theWordReference.com English Dictionary- Realness : the state of being actual or real; In our world this also means how well you pass in the gender role you were not born into.

We who identify with or express a gender identity have doubts if we pass in our minds. My thoughts are that no one really knows what makes a bio man feel like a man or what makes a bio woman feel like a woman; it is something that they are born just knowing.  It is the same for the transgenders community, many of us know our true gender yet our bodies display some thing different.

If we learn to just be contented with the level of realness that we present and stop measuringourselves against others then we will fit in with society more. Right now you could be saying to your self, “This is easier said then done.” True!

Food for thought, from my point of view masculinity is 85% confidants and 15% perception. Every one is entitle to his or hers own style. There is only one of you, just one, no one is exactly alike. (Even if you are a twin) We should always remember this. Maybe, just maybe you could influence someone to just be comfortable with their appearance and with who they truly are.